Healthy Relationships Rekindled

January 4, 2012

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How about a weekend get away to rekindle your marriage relationship with vigor and health? That is what we did last weekend!
 
Going back a few years my husband came up with a great idea, “A weekend away from home at home.”
 
At the time he worked away from home during the week. All 3 of our children were adults and had families of their own so it was just the two of us. I was self-employed and worked from home part of the time. When my husband got home for the weekend (sometimes he was able to work a 4 day work week) he was ready to stay home. I sometimes had the urge to go somewhere and do something different.
 
It was complicated to go somewhere for the weekend because it meant my husband had to get ready to leave home immediately after being gone all week. And when we would return on Sunday afternoon from a weekend outing, he would again immediately have to leave to go back to work. Also we had animals that required making arrangements for someone to stop by and take care of each day. Plus, it cost a lot of money to go somewhere, get a hotel room, eat out, and do whatever activity we might chose to do.
 
A weekend away from home at home gave us both a break and we could look forward to a relaxing weekend. It only required a little preparation and planning to make it successful.
 
Preparation included making sure the house was tidy and clean.  We planned simple healthy meals with grocery shopping completed ahead of time.
 
We set our own rules for the weekend. The rules vary according to the current situation but we always keep in mind that we are not to do anything we could not do if we were really away from home. 
 
Of course, we have to feed and water the animals but that only takes a few minutes each day. We work together to clean up any mess left from cooking our simple healthy meals. It is not fun to have a dirty kitchen at the end of the relaxing weekend.
 
A weekend away from home at home gives us the opportunity to talk and discuss personal (and sometimes business) goals. It is a time to reflect and plan. Over the years we have done things like read short books together or watch a movie. Typically we do not watch TV or spend time on the computer unless we want to look something up that adds to our discussions.
 
Some simple physical activity is important such as a nice walk or hike. We live in the mountains so a hike or a bike ride is always fun. Just spending time together with no distractions makes the weekend special.
 
Occasionally, one evening we will go out for a date to a nice restaurant and pretend we are dating again (after 50 plus years).
 
 We may entertain ourselves with our own karaoke (my piano playing) since we both enjoy singing. Now this is an exception we allow ourselves on this weekend away at home because I use the piano at home as we sing ole’ time favorites.
 
Last weekend was the first weekend away at home we had done in quite a long time. Somehow with taking care on 2 houses (one in CA and one in NM), overseeing my mother-in-law’s care in a nursing home, my mother living with us for several months a year, and various other things; we had forgotten to take this time for ourselves. This last weekend has rekindled our desire to get back into planning a vacation or weekend away from home at home several times a year.
 
When was the last time you really planned a weekend get-away retreat with your spouse?
 
My blogs usually focus on health and nutrition but how can you be healthy if your relationships are not healthy? And how can your relationships be healthy if you do not put time and energy into making them the best they can be?
 
I would love to hear about special times you have had with your loved one or ones. Tell me about it in the comment section below.
 
My hope for you is a rekindled relationship!
 
 
 
Pat Moon
 
 

 

Pat is a Health and Nutrition Coach.  She helps people make healthy lifestyle and nutrition choices.


Pat has been married to the same man for over 50 years, is the mother of 3 adult children, and grandma to 7 grandchildren.  Growing up in the country gave her a head start to living a healthy lifestyle.  This grandma became interested in nutrition as a mother and the past 26 plus years she has specialized in teaching others the importance of good nutrition.  Challenges along the road have been many; her father overcoming congestive heart failure with nutrition, her husband's battle with GERD and avoiding a major heart attack, her daughter's battle with a brain tumor, her grandson beating Hodgkin's Lymphoma, and others.  Her goal is to help others have the BEST REAL HEALTH possible and slow the aging process.  The products Pat personally uses are featured at www.bestrealhealth.gnld.net.

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1 Lori January 10, 2012 at 6:33 pm

This is so important Pat. Thanks for writing about it!

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2 Pat Moon January 10, 2012 at 8:22 pm

Lori, it was a joy to share!

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3 Sarah January 9, 2012 at 6:54 am

This is so fun! I was just chatting with my man about something like this. With our kids being so young (2 and 6) and living overseas where grandparents can't stop by to watch them for the weekend it gets tricky. At this point our dates are usually at home when the kids are asleep- we make sure to set time to chat about life and how we are doing. Or China has these amazing life size play places for kids so we take them there and let them run wild while we watch and chat 🙂

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4 Pat Moon January 10, 2012 at 12:08 pm

Sarah,
It sounds like you are truly fully engaged and in touch with your man. Yes, it can be tricky with young children when you do not have relatives close by to watch them and give you a break but it sounds like you are doing good and come up with good workable options. Stay a fully engaged mom and wife!

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5 denny hagel January 9, 2012 at 6:51 am

RUNNING not walking to the phone to call my husband to plan our weekend away from home at home!!! LOVE this idea! As grandparents raising our teen grandchildren this is perfect for us! Ship the kids to friends…lock the doors and hide the vehicles!! Ha! Thanks, you are so right…relationship health is important! 🙂

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6 Pat Moon January 10, 2012 at 12:03 pm

Great response, Denny! Have fun!

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7 Frustrated in Walkill January 8, 2012 at 2:33 pm

Pat, this is a beautiful post to start the day with. I only wish that it offered me hope, as I am in a hopeless relationship. I have not had a date with my hubbie in over 6 months, and in fact, can barely recall a pleasant conversation that was had with a smile. I know that he is not happy with me. I know that I am in it for the kids' benefit. But for the grace of Gd, I do need help. We are not each other's friend, and it is a long, lonely road to trod. I've made many suggestions to go to therapy and so forth, but he is passive-aggressive, turns down the idea, and we are so far gone that I can't imagine spending a weekend with him either at home or away. Can barely share a glass of wine at the kitchen table, with laughter and chatter. It is like walking on eggshells, always. Sorry to be negative, but am currently assessing what is best. Keep in mind how lucky you are!

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8 Pat Moon January 10, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Thank you for taking the time to read my article. I am so sad you feel your relationship is hopeless. I believe God would not agree with you as He is the creator of hope especially when a family is involved as He created the family. I am not a therapist but have been around the block a few times, been married for over 50 years and am 68 years old; but perhaps you could suggest an evening out or a weekend without the kids. Again I do not know your situation however putting a little romance into a candle light dinner, etc. could cause your husband to step back and realize why he married you. Don’t pressure him to go to therapy, just love him through without being critical or seeming discouraged. It may seem difficult but you need to remember why he was the man you chose to marry and focus on all his positives. You will be in my prayers and, yes, I do consider myself blessed. Also, we have been married for over 50 years but that does not mean it has all been smooth sailing. Commitment can rekindle the love!

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9 Andrea Beadle January 8, 2012 at 8:21 am

Great post Pat. Sometimes life gets so busy that we suddenly found we have neglected the most important things. My husband and I recently rekindled our relationship after a stressful year and it is so much fun! Having an intention to have more fun is a great one too. Laughter really is the best medicine!

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10 Pat Moon January 8, 2012 at 9:21 am

Andrea, I’m so happy to hear that you and your husband rekindled your relationship after a stressful year. Stress needs to be reckoned with so taking a break is great. I agree, laughter is great medicine and a wonderful stress reliever. Thanks for sharing!

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11 Hughie Bagnell January 7, 2012 at 6:57 am

Hey Pat…maintaining and enhancing the vigor, excitement, communication and sheer beauty of a relationship is in itself a blessing from God…awesome article! Thank you for sharing! …Hughie 🙂

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12 Pat Moon January 7, 2012 at 9:11 am

Hughie, thanks for your great description of our time away from home at home. Definitely enhances vigor, excitement, communication, and beauty of our relationship as well as putting a sparkle into the romance of relationship.

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13 Anastasiya Day January 7, 2012 at 3:06 am

Great idea Pat! It is so important to take a break and to spend the time together! Thanks for this post Pat.

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14 Pat Moon January 7, 2012 at 9:09 am

Anastasiya, yes, it is a great stress-free break to have time away from home at home;-)

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15 Sharon O'Day January 6, 2012 at 3:25 pm

Terrific idea, Pat!  Add to all the benefits the fact that when you get home you don't have those pesky credit card bills that reflect travel, hotel bills and meals.  Sounds like a "getaway" with all the pleasure and none of the pain!

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16 Pat Moon January 7, 2012 at 9:07 am

Sharon, we are in love with our planned time away from home at home. And, yes, it is good to not have the pesky credit card bills to pay later.

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17 Scott Hay January 6, 2012 at 3:08 pm

Such a great idea, Pat. My wife and I don’t get a great deal of time together just the two of us so think we should arrange some weekends away at home!

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18 Pat Moon January 7, 2012 at 9:05 am

Scott, try it! We find it very refreshing. No bags to pack and unpack and no credit card bills to pay later.

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19 Olga Hermans January 5, 2012 at 7:01 pm

This was absolutely fun to read Pat. So great that you and your husband are still loving each other after so many years, it sounds as an exception instead of the normal. You are a great example to many! It is very healthy to love our spouse and if we take time fr each other it is double up, if you ask me! Thanks!

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20 Pat Moon January 6, 2012 at 9:27 am

Thanks for the compliment, Olga. Love and commitment are key. Marriage is a contract made before God.

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